Abbot Columba McCann: I remember, thirty years ago, taking the train for about half an hour from Rome to the ancient, ruined port of Ostia Antiqua. Silted up for centuries, much of the ancient buildings were by a curious twist of history preserved until, in the twentieth century, the marshland in which they were submerged was drained. Among the ruins I spotted a plaque on the wall of a half ruined house. It told the story of St Augustine, the man from Africa, and his last conversation with his mother as he prepared to return home. She was facing into the journey towards her eternal home. When the question of her burial came up, she basically said, ‘Bury my body wherever you like, it doesn’t matter. But do remember me when offering Mass.’
Today we remember, at Mass, all our loved ones who have died and more again, all the faithful departed.
When someone close to us has died it is good to remember the different ways in which they gifted us. We can remember, re-live, what we received. We benefit all over again. We can thank them and thank God.
There may have been some ways in which we were able to help them in return on their life’s journey. When someone close to us has died it can help to give thanks to God for the ways in which we were able to give them a gift or two along the way.
There may have been ways in which they fell short in their dealings with us. When someone close to us has died it is good to seek forgiveness for them: forgiveness in my own heart (not always so easy) and God’s forgiveness, which is greater than we can imagine.
There may have been ways in which we ourselves fell short in our dealings with them. When someone close to us has died it’s good to say sorry to them and sorry to God.
Remembering those who have died is a good thing. Remembering them with God brings it further – remembering them while God holds our hand, so to speak. Then as we speak our story we can hand it over to the source of all life. Remembering them as we give thanks for gifts given and received, remembering them as we forgive and ask for forgiveness, all within God’s hands.
When we look at today’s gospel we see what happens when that kind of encounter happens. There is the sad procession out of the town: a widow and her neighbours heading out to bury her only son. He was all she had, her last protector and insurance for the future. But coming from the opposite direction is Jesus and his disciples. And they meet. Death meets life, and everything changes.
Remembering the dead can bring with it a bittersweet mixture of gratitude and sorrow, acceptance and regret. But if we meet Christ in the process, everything there can become a bearer of life.



